Let me start off by saying research (what you’re doing RIGHT NOW) is the #1 most important thing you can do to ensure the best experience. In this post, I’m going to discuss a few things you as a human & submissive can do to get the most out of your Fem Domme search & appointment booking experience. First, we will discuss what you need to do to prepare, before even beginning your search, then we will move onto what to look for, what to avoid, and how to approach her in a manner that she will take seriously, finally, I will go over a few things you should expect during screening, though these requirements are often dependent on the individual.
Sit down subbies, obviously, you skipped a step because you’re already here but I’m totally willing to overlook that little mishap for the sake of telling you this! Before you even open up your browser to search “Dominatrix near me” or “Hot online FemDom” you need to sit down with yourself and make a realistic list of not only what you are looking for, your kink interests & fetishes, but more importantly, what you are NOT looking for, your limits. All too often we can get wrapped up in our fantasies and forget to even think about the things that could absolutely ruin that experience, these details can be the difference between a hell of a good time & just plain hell, this information is very important during the planning process.
So, you’ve made a list of your interests and limits and you can convey them in a somewhat clear and concise way, you’re ready to search. You’re looking for someone whose main areas of focus align with your desires, finding someone who genuinely enjoys the same activities as you is going to lead to a better overall experience. . If geographically possible try to find a reputable dungeon in your area or your local , if you’re in the not online presence is important & can also make the difference between seeing a real-life Dominatrix & losing money to some scammer who will block you & disappear once you’ve paid a deposit.*This is a rare occourance & generally only happens to people who don’t bother looking into the professional they are booking. Thoroughly reading ads and websites is important, specialties & activities she enjoys are often plainly laid out, she will also let you know the best way to approach her & what information to provide to gain her favor & time in her busy schedule. If she produces content, browse *and buy* from her stores, this will give you a look into her style of domination & idea of compatibility
*When browsing content keep in mind that many of the subs you see in independently produced clips are also often Domme’s romantic partner & some activities may be reserved solely for them, for example, the privilege of my weight upon a face, being smothered by my pussy is reserved for my partner & not something I offer during in-person appointments.
What to avoid… Do NOT approach someone before you’ve thoroughly read their inquiry requirements & 100% intend to schedule an appointment. You wouldn’t walk into a store & inform the employees you were considering shopping, do not contact us in that manner either. If you cannot afford a tribute, do not try to haggle or barter, it is embarrassing, disrespectful to yourself, and her, whether intended or not you are sending the message that you think her time is worth less than she is asking, just don’t do it, even if she did lower the tribute it is unlikely you would receive the same attitude & enthusiasm she brings to sessions with subs who give her full tribute. Wait, save up if you need to, but do not approach until you have her tribute on hand and ready to be handed over.
Other things to avoid: No screening requirements if working outside of an established dungeon, anyone uninterested in your limits, anyone who only exists on social media, if they’re hard to research consider yourself officially sketched out. Avoid sounding too informal during initial contact, you are looking for a good time but keep in mind you are contacting a professional who is also running a business- even if that business is providing fun times, clear intent will help you stand out amongst the rest.
I can ALWAYS tell when someone hasn’t properly read my ad to check for requirements, every time. I don’t even ask for that much, just basic specifics like name, time & date, how to contact you to confirm & how you plan to pay your deposit, that’s it. Good subs get to the point by stating the most basic information, the BEST subs devour my website *which they found while doing their due diligence to confirm I’m the human behind all of my accounts & pages* where they find my booking form which allows them to send me a detailed request complete with a summary of their ideal fantasy. With this simple act, you’ve shown intent, a desire to please, and respect for the Dommes time, good impression things!
